Almost weekly, people ask us how Amanda is doing. I'm sure she gets some of those same questions except they are about Evan and us. I'm always willing to share what open adoption means and our experiences with it. I also like to share about adoption in general and how wonderful it can truly be.

One thing I like to point out because everyone tells us how lucky Evan is, WE are the lucky ones. We were chosen by an incredible woman who put Evan first, not because she didn't love him enough or that she wasn't enough for him, but because she wanted more for him. In order for me to become a mother, another mother's heart had to break. This is very humbling to me. Evan has healed our very fragile spirits that infertility had brought on. In fact very few people know how fragile Alex and I were when it came to building our family. We had to go through all the stages of grief and in some ways that will always stay with us. In all those years we had to completely give up our will to the Lord. We had no say in what the future would bring, only the hope that something would happen. We would have waited 7 more years for our miracle. Evan has such a spirit to him. I don't think he will ever truly understand how much he saved us, how much we have learned from him, how he grew our faith in the gospel, and how much he continues to complete us. Wherever we go people constantly smile and look at him. A lot of it is because he is such a cute, smiley boy but he has an enormous spirit that shines for everyone. There is a glow and brightness in his eyes that complete strangers have commented on. He truly is a joy of child. Some of the greatest moments have been when Alex comes home and scoops him up. Evan adores his daddy and seeing Alex as a dad makes my heart melt. These two guys knew each other before coming to this earth and it always amazes me how alike they are. We are forever grateful to be Evan's parents. We love Amanda so much and are proud of her in all that she does. We are her biggest cheerleaders and every night she is in our prayers. Throughout the day I tell Evan how much he is loved by Amanda and give him hugs and kisses for her.